Every day we make choices on how we are going to respond to things. It can be a change at work, something someone said or just a fleeting thought. We decide whether to think positively or negatively. Sometimes when we are anxious or feeling down our minds go to the negative thought more readily.
In counselling we look at the concept that for every negative thought there is a positive one. What would the outcome be if we chose to believe in possibilities and opportunities? When we close the door on a negative thought we open the door to options. In a Huff Post article they took a look at the science behind positive thinking. A negative thought can take over your life but positive thoughts create positive emotions such as joy and contentment. This sounds like a much better option.
A few years ago I had the opportunity to see Dr. Wayne Dyer speak. His positive energy and motivation is something I will never forget as it seemed to linger with me for weeks after seeing him. His book Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life is still a mainstay on my recommended reading list. He asked audience members to think about their dreams and aspirations and what was holding them back. One audience member said they wanted to start their own business but she couldn’t do so for financial reasons. His response was to suggest that the barrier was a mental construct, a barrier that stopped her from achieving her dream. What if she were to say “I am going to start a business” and just believed in the possibility? Two ways of thinking….one a dead end with the only option being failure and the other with the power of possibility.
If you aren’t sure where to start, take a minute from your day and think about something that didn’t go well or made you think negatively. Stop and think about what the alternative positive thought might be and write it down. Do this every day for a week and take a look at your list at the end of the week. Was this hard or did it start to come easier as the week went on? Keep a note book by your bed or jot it down on your phone. The idea is that your brain will start to welcome the changes in thinking and you will find yourself making room for the positive and what a wonderful way to believe that things can be different.