23 Nov

Finding Hope

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We are living in a time where we are constantly bombarded by negative images and stories in the media.  Even for the most mentally healthy and positive people it can have an impact. According to Wikipedia Hope is an optimistic attitude of mind based on an expectation of positive outcomes related to events and circumstances in one’s life or the world at large.

So how do we find hope when our world seems like a dark and angry place? It is remarkably easier than we think.  There is hope all around us.  The co-worker who is about to have their first child, the sunny day in the middle of winter, the friend who is starting an exciting new business or the neighbour who asks you to come over for tea just because they enjoy your company.  Hope is there and we don’t have to look too far to find it.  The problem is that despair is there too.

Lately I have consciously chosen not to watch the news about the recent violence happening  overseas.  It is not that I am not compassionate  to others or that I don’t want to be aware but seeing  the images over and over is too difficult, too hopeless.  I instead choose what I expose myself too. I filter the amount of violence and trauma that I view.

Information is out there to help understand the facts and not include the media sensationalism that sometimes follows a story.    I choose to believe there is hope because honestly the alternative is not a possibility I want to entertain. Hope means looking for a positive outcome in some way.

In an article Live, Give, Love and Learn: 10 Places to Find Hope they suggest opening up to others and letting them know you need them or “find hope in love“.  We can find things in our daily lives to be grateful for.  Another place is to “Find hope in the least expected places.”

In an article Finding Hope by Psychology Today the author Karyn Hall states that when we feel hopeless people can become passive and apathetic.  She suggests doing small things that can make a difference such as doing something different from your daily routine or performing an act of kindness. Creating hope is something we can do for ourselves in a very purposeful way.

In my search for something hopeful that might inspire our readers I found an exceptional Ted Talk. With over 22 million views this amazing Ted Talk from Brene Brown is worth watching.  She talks about expanding perception.  A researcher/storyteller, she describes herself as seeing that “life is messy, clean it up, organize it and put it into a Bento box.

So grab a cup of tea and spend 20 minutes listening to a very funny, hopeful talk that looks at the power of vulnerability and set your  intention to be hopeful and powerful in your own way.

19 Apr

Don’t Believe Everything You Think

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Negative thoughts can impact our daily lives. They can be barriers to our success, they can stop us from trying something new and they can feed us false information.

A negative thought can start out small and seemingly harmless but the more our mind  nurtures it the thought takes on a life of it’s own and multiplies becoming enormous!

You may feel you are fighting an uphill battle because yes the world is full of negativity as the media constantly likes to remind you. The world however is  also filled with positivity and we get to choose what we would like to see more of in our life.

Is our thought real or based in fact……or Do we know this to be trueWhat evidence do we have to support it?  Is there another explanation? What positive thought about this might counterbalance the negative one?

Tackle that negative thought early before it is joined by friends.  Choose to implement strategies that embrace the positive over the negative.

On a site called Tiny Buddha an article by Michelle Uy, gives 10 Tips to Overcome Negative Thoughts: Positive Thinking Made Easy. She shares ideas about making a gratitude list or one of my personal favorites, remembering we are not perfect and not dwelling on our mistakes.  We can be our worst critic even in adulthood, it is as though we go back to our childhood and that test that we wrote and that question we think we should have gotten right.  What about choosing to celebrate the good things we have done and looking at the things we have learned along the way?!

The inner critic is explored in How Negative Thoughts are Ruining Your Life by Lisa Firestone Ph D, from Psychology Today.  They support the idea of self reflection and mindful living to be  important ingredients in finding happiness or more positivity in our lives.

If we dig a little more on the internet we find that there are sites dedicated to the positive. You can take the Positivity Self Test to find out what your positivity to negativity score is. You can check out a writer’s take on Benjamin Franklin’s daily journal. Ben started each day with a morning question, What good shall I do today? and ended the day with What good have I done today? Tim Goessling on the Good Men Project, shares with us how he matched up on I Lived A Day According to Ben Franklin’s Schedule and It Changed My Life.

If you are tech savvy and like to use apps there are of course apps to keep us on track in our journey to embrace happiness and positivity.   Happify (free in iTunes) and Positive Thinking by TappCoder (Android and Apple) are just a couple I came across.   If you are a reader then a great read is The Happiness Project and Happy at Home  by author Gretchen Rubin. So be kind to yourself and make a choice, a choice to see more positive and to let happiness into your life.

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